089 | A Look Back At An Unexpected Decade

Happy New Year! Welcome to episode 89 of The Grace Cafe Podcast. In this episode we take a look back at our own journey over the past decade and our trek out of performance-based Christianity. It’s been 10+ years of healing for us after having left the different religious environments in 2009 that we were a part of for many years. 

We know many of you are on similar journeys out of toxic religious experiences and we hope our podcast provides a safe place for you to process your own experience. We hope this episode will encourage, strengthen, and remind you of the hope and love that is yours in Jesus. Click Play to listen in.


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088 | Am I Obedient Enough?

Welcome to episode 88 of The Grace Cafe Podcast. In this episode, we catch you up on some of the things that have been going on with us personally, eventually landing on the topic of obedience. But along the way we talk about Christmas, Mike’s skin cancer diagnosis (not the bad kind thankfully) and his experience under the doctor’s knife, the future of this podcast, other podcasts we enjoy and recommend, and our gratitude to you for allowing us to be a part of your lives and for listening to our show.

Links to other sites/podcasts we recommend in this episode:

We’ll be back in 2020!


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086 | Preach The Word?

Welcome to episode 86 of The Grace Cafe Podcast. The phrase “the Word of God” appears several times in the New Testament. I had always heard and believed that “the Word of God’ was a reference to the Bible. I assumed that the Bible is the Word of God and that the phrase “the Word of God” was another way of saying the Bible. When Paul told Timothy to preach the word, it’s assumed he meant preach the Bible. 

But the Bible never calls itself the Word of God. That phrase is reserved in Scripture for Jesus (Rev. 19:13) and the gospel (1 Thessalonians 2:9, 13), as determined by context. Tradition has given the Bible the title, the Word of God, but the Bible itself never does.

That topic is sandwiched in the middle of this episode from our old Known & Loved podcast that originally aired in March of 2017 and was a conversation that took us in several directions. Shout out to our friend Rocky Glenn in this episode who wrote us a letter that we interacted with. We hope this episode encourages you.


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085 | Labels, Assumptions, And Finding The Courage to Question

Welcome to episode 85 of The Grace Cafe Podcast. We’ve had some recent conversations with others who’ve related their stories to us about how asking honest questions resulted in being shunned, shamed, and even asked to leave the group they were in. When our journeys take a turn away from performance and toward a more genuine experience with grace, the resulting freedom that accompanies that experience is scary to those who haven’t discovered it yet and asking questions or expressing new opinions based on your new-found freedom, is a threat to those in charge or those whose journey is all about performance.

Let’s talk about it.


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083 | Fear and Doubt

Welcome to episode 83 of The Grace Cafe Podcast. Fear and doubt. These are two emotions we can all relate to and we all experience to varying levels and at different times. In performance-based, top-down religious environments, fear and doubt are common byproducts because the spotlight is on our own failed performance. At the same time, fear and doubt are not allowed to be expressed in that environment because they’re counterproductive to it. In performance-based Christianity, fear and doubt require us to wear masks and pretend we’re something we’re not, increasing our level of fear and doubt. The goal is to clean it up and get back to pretending. 

“And have mercy on those who doubt.” Jude vs. 6

-Enjoy!


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079 | Is God Trying To Teach Me Something When I Suffer?

Welcome to episode 79 of The Grace Cafe Podcast. Let’s talk about suffering. Our view of God will determine our view of suffering. Is God trying to teach me a lesson through suffering? If so, am I responsible to figure out what God is trying to teach me in my suffering? Am I suffering for Jesus enough? How does our theology impact our view of, and our response to, suffering?

Let’s talk about it.


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075 | Two Unchangeable Things

Welcome to episode 75 of The Grace Cafe Podcast. The New Covenant, which we enjoy living under, was first spoken to Abraham by way of promise and then confirmed to him by way of an oath (Hebrews 6:13-20). The writer of the letter to the Hebrews calls this promise and this oath, two unchangeable things. What makes them unchangeable is that God cannot lie and because God cannot lie, we have this sure hope as an anchor for the soul.

We also interact with a letter from a listener who had a question about 2 Peter 1:3-15. This passage is a gospel reminder of the same precious promises of the New Covenant and the fruit of the Spirit that comes from a relationship with Jesus. Let’s talk about it….


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073 | When Personal Preferences Become Law

Welcome to episode 73 of The Grace Cafe Podcast. Let’s talk about what happens when our personal preferences become hard and fast rules that we impose on others. Paul said that he wanted to know nothing among others except Jesus Christ and him crucified. But we get caught up in side issues like legalism, tribal doctrine, and religious tradition that take us away from what really matters and close down any chance for meaningful and honest conversation. Sometimes the freedom we have in Christ scares those who aren’t experiencing it to the degree that we are and as a result, we get labeled or categorized with various names and we’re considered dangerous or rogue.

We talk about these things and more in this episode as we share with you a couple of personal stories that reinforce our ability to forget our identity in Jesus and forget how free he has made us. We also reference and recommend this music video by Jason Gray – Remind Me Who I Am:


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